Again?What Do You Mean I Fall In Love Again?

"I Just Fall in Love Again" is a song written by Larry Herbstritt.....But can you just simply "fall in love again?" Does one really want to???? They say we usually fall in love with those who match a list that is stored in our minds. I honestly believe that over the years and as we interact with life we start to form a list of the items that should be present in the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. This list is the key factor that makes us fall in love with someone and not another person. Our culture, our society, our past experiences, our childhood experiences, our relationship with our friends and our relationship with our parents shapes this list until it contains the code that can make "us" love a certain person.

I recently read that If someone fell in love with you once, even for a few moments, then this means that you have already matched their "subconscious criteria." If this is true, then a person will never fall in love with you if you didn’t match their "subconscious criteria". So basically, if it happened once that you bypassed their filters and met their criteria then you can always make them fall in love with you again. But what if it is you that do not feel like entagling your current life-style with all that comes with being in love???? The only way that a person who is "unwilling" to fall in love again is to re-invent this part of their desire. I guess, I, you, we, would have to first recognize the need to even love again. If we can allow ourselves to remember that loving others is one of the most basic needs of human existence and without love, life is meaningless (even if our current single life options are occasionally appetizing:)).

But seriously, I think that you just gotta love yourself. The more you love yourself, the more likely you are to attract a person who is emotionally healthy. If you go out looking for love to fill a hole in your heart, then you are much more likely to attract someone who wants to take advantage of you. However, if you come from the perspective of having lots of love to give, then you will attract a similar person. Let the love come to you. AND definately don’t go out looking for “Mr. or Ms. Right” in places where singles congregate, bars, clubs, etc, because we "all" know the only thing you should take from that interaction is a "FWB", HeeHee. Just life according to SoRare...LOL